Some couples approach therapy hoping that the therapist will fix their "problematic" partner. Once the partner gets it and changes, all the relationship problems will be solved. Yeah right! Here's the deal! You can't change your partner and your partner can't change you. You can, however, influence each other. Becoming a kinder and more loving part...
Together we can heal in our relationships. We find somebody, we fall in love. Boom we feel amazing! We're really feeling that this perfect person is going to complete us. This person is going to soothe what needs soothing and heal what needs healing. I am going to get from this person what I didn't get as a child. That's what falling in love means....
Whenever you are face to face with a partner who is in a state of upset and hurt, you have one goal, which is to help them come back into harmony with you. Back into closeness. Even in the heat of the moment, remember that the person you're speaking to is someone you care about. And the reason you're speaking is to make things better. The subtext u...
How do we heal, grow, and thrive as people? I firmly believe it is in relationship. We are wired for connection. Who we are is shaped by our relationships. This means that when it comes to thriving and developing in a healthy and vigorous way, the quality of our relationships matters. All Smiles! Ed Tronick observed that our culture idealizes harmo...
Beverly Joy Ehrlich is a Relationship Coach. She lives in Israel with her husband, their children, and grandchildren. Beverly and her husband moved to Israel from Cape town, South Africa a year after getting married, almost 40 years ago. Beverly loves the outdoors in Israel. She has participated in a 4 km charity swim in Lake Kinneret, has hiked pa...
Why is it so painfully difficult for people who love each other to give their partner what they want and in return get their needs met too? What behaviors sabotage and derail our good intentions? Real intimacy requires a constant journey from disruption to repair. According to Terry Real, master couple and family therapist, and author of the ...
Let me ask you something. Have you ever felt like you don't recognize your behavior or you can't believe what you just said? Sound familiar? You start to say something that really isn't the best thing to say at that moment. In fact, it's really going to get you into trouble. It's definitely not going to get you closer to the person you're speaking ...
Do you feel like you and your partner keep repeating the same behaviors and you just can't shift things? Your relationship doesn't have to be a constant struggle or a complete disconnect. Intimate relationships aren't only about falling in love, they're about how to stay in love long-term. The problem is that when our partner triggers us, our skill...
"I am so shocked and my feelings so hurt that you would even think that of me!" If you're boundaryless and thin-skinned, you take in everything that's said to you. In a healthy relationship, you understand that other people think whatever they think about you. If it's not true, it's not true. It goes splat on the outside of your boundary; you don't...
One of the most powerful tools in the relational arsenal is a map of how to think of yourself as well as your partner in your ongoing minute-to-minute current relationship. Healthy Self-Esteem Self-esteem means that I hold myself in esteem. I recognize my intrinsic value as a human being. Within the circle of health, I have a warm regard for myself...
Have you ever questioned whether the person you're in love with is capable of making you happy? Well, how is that working out for you? The marriage we want is like the body we want-flawless!! Relationships are not perfect! Real relationships are the collision of your partner's imperfections with your flaws. How you manage that, is key to your healt...
Two couples are sitting in a coffee shop. The one couple turns to the other and says, "I hear you're working on your relationship. Are you doing the work by yourselves or is someone doing it for you?" We're always told to work on our relationships. What exactly does that mean? Foe or Ally? In 2019 my parents were both dying and my husband was depre...
While so many people are expressing their feelings of fears to me at this particular time, I am reminded of a conversation I had with Balasz Nyiri about 2 kinds of fear. There is, what Balasz refers to, as the evolutionary role of fear. This fear impacts our survival. So people who live in forests will learn which berries are poisonous and could ki...
"I have a dream……." Through the Fire element we access our passion for life. We connect to what really matters to us, to our core values, and to the sources of inspiration that bring us most to life. The Fire element brings meaning and purpose to our lives. It strengthens us and gives us courage. "I have a strategic plan" is Air. "I have a dream" i...
You're not alone when you put your dreams on hold till "you just get better prepared". Should I just "Jump Right In"? It's a question many of us ask at some time in our lives. Here's the no. 1 reason that I hear most often from people who say they want to get more clients… make more money… meet a loving partner…or just start enjoying their life mor...
Most people think of dreams as some kind of unattainable fantasy, or as something they do in their sleep. When I speak of dreams, I mean our aspirations, goals, and hopes that we most want for ourselves, our families, friends and business associates. I invite you to have dreams in the areas of personal, professional, relationship, health, finance a...
Bev Ehrlich is the founder of "Be Heard, Live Joyfully Coaching". She is a qualified teacher as well as a certified life coach from several Israeli and international universities. Her mission is to help as many people as she can accomplish their personal, professional and health goals. She cares deeply that people have the tools to believe and act ...
Step 1: Tell your child to pay close attention to their feelings at all times. Every time they feel bad or uneasy, let them take a minute to identify the source of that negative energy – Is it a specific situation, is something broken, is it being around a specific person?...
