Bev's Blog

Beverly Ehrlich is a relationship coach. She firmly believes that we heal, grow, and thrive through healthy and cherishing relationships.

Feeling helpless and strained when her husband of many years found himself in the depths of depression, they turned for support to Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy (RLT). She has since dedicated her life to bringing couples back into healthy connectedness.

She teaches strategies that help clients speak their truth so that their partner can hear them and come into repair quicker each time they have a fallout.

Her core passion and mission are educating and empowering full respect living with a deeper level of consciousness and authentic expression.

What does forgiveness do for the forgiver?


"We've all felt pain from people hurting us and we often hold onto this emotional energy." Joanne Victoria spoke this poignant sentence when she shared with me about early attachment trauma that impacts our lives today. According to Thomas Hubl, trauma is an overwhelming experience or situation that has an effect in our bodies, our emotional world ...

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Don't be Afraid of Change, It's leading you Somewhere!


 Like many things in life, the decision to bring about change rarely happens overnight. It takes something like a Eureka moment, a coach or an accident for us to really look at ourselves and realize that something needs to change. Things gradually build up in us and we start to suffer the results. It is usually the results that we notice first...

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What will you discover when you change your perspective?


I asked Marquez Mosher what he means when he suggests we challenge our perspective to create new opportunities. His reply was "check if what you believe is still accurate and applicable". What then? I asked, "Well if they are still relevant then take the next step to achieving the dream you wish to create for yourself, if not be open to new possibi...

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Feel Heard and Understood.


When B told me, in a recent workshop I led, that she felt heard and understood, I asked her to share more of what she'd experienced.We all have the need to be heard and understood. When we feel heard and understood we feel valued and loved. So, why do we sometimes not feel heard or understoodThere are 2 aspects to being heard and understood.The fir...

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Step into a Bigger Life


 "So often we live the life that other people want for us" This is how Stephanie McPhail opens her WiSh ( Wisdom Share) with me. So many times we live the life that family expect of us, society says we should, men are supposed to…., women must… We only have one opportunity to live this life, so let's live the best one that we can because, we h...

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Create a Reality that Excites You


When N. began working with me she set an intention to find peace and clarity. You have the power to create a reality that excites you on every level. With intention, possibilities are endless and you can live a life that matters to you. Your intentions manifest with the help of your thoughts, words, and actions. Your intention is what you want in t...

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Success is Simple!


 This is Kimberly Kasparian's mantra from her generous heart to ours. "Success is simple ." How so? Let's begin with Step no.1: Set and Intention Intention is getting clear on what you want. It sounds really easy. However when we feel stressed, we start adding conditions. I want it but not at the expense of…It's not intention when we want to b...

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Motivation and Positive Energy are Contagious


Being enthusiastic in the presence of others is about being supportive and motivating. Motivation and positive energy are contagious. Being enthusiastic as a coach when in relation with your clients creates the momentum to move your clients into action. Enthusiasm needs to be authentic and come from a strong desire to see your clients at their best...

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How do I know what my purpose is?


 "We all have challenges in our lives and we all have a purpose".these are lines from a conversation I had with Sheron Burks-Silvera. Sheron shares, that we all have a purpose! And if you can discover what you're really passionate about and can monetize that, then you'll be living a life of joy. Sheron helps people who want to move away from w...

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You are definitely braver, stronger and smarter than you believe.


 "Reacting is action before feeling, responding is action informed by feeling." These are wise words shared by my mentor and teacher Thomas Hubl. What exactly does this mean and how did this work out for my client D when wanting to end an intimate relationship? When we react to our world, we have been triggered and a younger part of us is beha...

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What does money mean to you?


 Sometimes people say, they don't have enough money to live a life that matters to them. When talking to Suzy Kahati, she pointed out that money means many things for people. It can mean freedom, security, stability,stress, tension, ignorance and much more. What is common to everyone for sure, is that how they feel about money manifests in the...

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What do you do when you get a flat tire?


 If you were on a journey and you got a flat tire, would you see that as a sign that you were supposed to turn back, or would you fix the tire and continue on? When something doesn't go the way we had planned, it's an opportunity to stop and realign yourself and reassess where you're going. Recently, my client M. said to me "Even though I went...

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Just say YES!! Then figure it out!

Sean Douglas has created a successful life by living by this statement, "Say YES, then figure it out!" Sometimes we need to first make a commitment and then take a leap of faith. When you say, no, you close yourself off to new opportunities and possibilities. When you say YES, it opens your mind to receive new information. This is known as a growth...

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Feeling Safe in your Relationships

When our beautiful and more painful parts are compassionately listened to then time spent together offers a "safe space where I was able to truly open up and share." These are words spoken to me by my client M. who felt that by being listened to in an accepting and nonjudgmental way, she was ultimately able to begin healing through self-reflection....

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Own Your Value, See Your Worth.


 In conversation with Yvonne St. Louis, when you own your value you see your worth and what gifts you have to share in this world. Recognizing your worth impacts the quality of the relationships you create, as an intimate partner, friend, colleague and parent. Yvonne believes that this is not about seeking external goals as much as about relea...

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What is Inspiration?


 This quote jumped out at me when J, a client who attended one of my recent workshops, said she was given "new ways to approach ongoing issues. " When you feel part of a group,that you really belong, then the wisdom, support and compassion of peers allows you to explore your challenges in a safe environment. When you feel safe and trusting, yo...

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Is a goal where we want to get or where we want to come from?


"The goals that people usually set are meant to bring them more than the actual experience of the goal". What does this mean? Ivan explains that behind the desire for, a new life partner, a new job, a more meaningful life, is an emotion which is unfulfilled. Your goals become a reality when you identify and understand your "why". Here are a few imp...

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The Gift of a Calm Presence and Compassionate Listening.


 We are designed to live together, create together, to support one another and share our intelligences in order to become who we are supposed to become in this world. My client R. said it so well when she reflected on our coaching sessions " in this supportive and compassionate relationship, the knot of my jumbled thoughts is significantly les...

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Is timing always perfect?


I recently revisited a conversation I had with Adrienne Sholzberg. Adrienne was invited to attend an opening ceremony of a renovated synagogue in Tel Aviv. The story that she heard there inspired a beautiful and clear metaphor about hope, rebuilding and new possibilities. The old synagogue had been abandoned, forgotten, locked up never to see the l...

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Where do you feel safe?


Uncertainty is the unknown. Curiosity and exploration of the unknown are enabled by a feeling of safety, security and connection. How safe we feel in the world will impact on how we show up and what we create as a legacy. While recently coaching R., she expressed to me that the feeling of safety she feels in our sessions has given her so much more ...

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