Hi Visitor,

How do we heal, grow, and thrive as people? I firmly believe it is in relationship. We are wired for connection. Who we are is shaped by our relationships. This means that when it comes to thriving and developing in a healthy and vigorous way, the quality of our relationships matters. You can read more about this in my latest article in Brainz Magazine.

Moving into Relational Repair-4 Tools to Get You Started

The practical tips and techniques I share will help you take the first steps toward healing and enhancing your relationship. So many of our knee-jerk same old patterns and responses erode all the intimacy and closeness we felt at the beginning of our relationship.

Relational coaching is the key that can unlock new possibilities for you. It's about building a loving, authentic, and meaningful relationship where you both show up as your best selves. It can help you navigate the challenges, nurture understanding, and create a strong bond that stands the test of time.

Yeah, you say I get it. That’s pretty obvious, but….

Does it take both partners to work on a relationship?

In an ideal world, both partners show up and do the work to create a beautiful, loving relationship. 

However, sometimes, one partner is resistant. 

And if that’s your case, the good news is that you can work on your relationship without getting your partner on board at first…

The beauty of learning relational skills is that they improve your relationship. When you change your own behaviors, you invite a more loving response from your partner.

For example, one skill I teach my clients is to shift from complaint to request—because beneath every complaint is actually a request, so we learn to lead with that. This encourages women in particular to be more assertive on the front end and less resentful on the back end.

Your partner’s reaction will be very different if instead of criticizing what they’re doing wrong, you actually asked them clearly what you’d like and what would be helpful and supportive for you in the moment. You show them what right looks like in a kind and non-judgemental way.

When you do this, you empower them to come through for you. 

Shifting from complaint to request is just one of the essential relational skills you learn when you work with an RLT-trained coach. 

If you’re feeling that you could use some relational skills to get unstuck… I’d love to help. Feel free to sign up for a complimentary call with me. We’ll look at what’s getting in the way of your feeling connected and chat about next steps to feeling closer.

In addition to the articles on my website, you might also find my new free resources helpful. Keep checking back as I add more of these all the time.

Warmly

Bev