Dear Visitor,
Couples are often challenged by their different perspectives. To name but a few, these can be opposing religious or political beliefs, lack of agreement over priorities, clashing lifestyle choices, or maybe even different values of how to show up in this world.
Why is it so painfully difficult for people who love each other to give their partner what they want, and in return get their own needs met? What behaviors sabotage and derail our good intentions? What behaviours cherish and nurture our relationships?
According to Terry Real, master couple and family therapist, there are 5 losing strategies that trip us up and seduce us into believing that we can get what we want from our partner!
And what's worse is, that our losing strategies co-mingle with our partner's losing strategies in a way that creates patterns that reinforce unsuccessful communication and push us further apart from each other.
The good news is that Terry also came up with winning strategies that help us nourish and nurture our relationships.
Here's a snap shot what these strategies look like.
