(VIDEO) There Is No Redeeming Value In Harshness

‍Dear Visitor,

If you criticize, judge, or blame yourself when things go wrong, when you're not perfect, or when you behave badly, you’re experiencing low self-esteem.

Self-esteem affects every area of our life from our relationships with others to our performance at work. and how we feel about ourselves.

Here’s the thing tho, there is no redeeming value in harshness.

“There’s nothing harshness does that
loving firmness doesn’t do better.” 

Terry Real

If you speak harshly to yourself, I invite you to watch this video.

‍Self-esteem means holding yourself warmly even in the face of your imperfections and mistakes. 

You feel bad about your bad behavior that's appropriate but you don't turn it into a personal attack.  If you’ve behaved poorly, make amends to the person you’ve hurt.  

It takes a lot to move from one-down shame into healthy connection.  It also takes a lot to move from one-up superiority back down into healthy connection.

You can learn to do that. 

‍Get rid of the harshness and replace it with compassion and loving firmness. 

Come down from the one-up.  You're no better than anyone else.  Come up from the one-down. You're no worse than anybody else. 

Connect to your own self, imperfect as it may be. 

Take a look at what lies behind your critical inner voice.

How can you begin to speak more lovingly to yourself?

I hope you find this video helpful, Bev.

A healthy relationship with yourself is a prerequsite to a healthy relationship with someone else.

As always, feel free to connect and chat with me.

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‍Warmly,
Bev

P.S. For more short video clips on tips for a more fulfilling relationship:

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